Tuesday, March 30, 2010

Writing Styles

When Eryn writes a blog post, she comes up with the title after writing the post. When I, Wesley, write a post, I come up with the title first then write a supporting blog. Interesting difference. I wonder if our child will be a prose poet or 5 paragraph essay kinda person.

Moving right along....we had a lovely visit from the MIL (Eryn's abbreviation) this weekend. Biltmore, painting, sweet gifts for Eryn and the baby, a great housewarming gift (we can actually see in our kitchen now) and lots of meaningful conversation. Also attended Palm Sunday services at All Souls, which are ....different....to say the least. Different at least from the normal Eucharist at All Souls. Which is to be expected, being Palm Sunday and all, but still - different.

When you write a blog post, does your wife/husband/etc back seat post? Just curious, as mine does.

Molly (our dog for those who don't know) had a great time this weekend and since as well. Two trips to the dog park and lots of walks. Enjoying the nice weather as we all are.

Here are photos of my radiant and beautiful ever patient and loving wife:




Monday, March 22, 2010

Wesley and I were in Valle Crucis for the weekend at an Episcopal young adult retreat we have been active with for many years now. Vocare, as it is called, has been the source of many great friendships for us. It was wonderful to be around those friends, both old and new, this weekend. I was feeling pretty crummy and mostly just observed the activities and napped, but to get away and to be surrounded by fun and loving people was very therapeutic to this tired momma.

Wesley was the music leader for the weekend and did a wonderful job inspiring the group to lift our voices in celebration. I fell in love with a guitar player and it's always a joy to see that glow he gets when he plays and sings those familiar worship songs.

It was interesting to gauge the reactions of the people at the retreat to my pregnancy. The older people in the group (25-30) were very interested in how the pregnancy affected me, how big the baby is right now, and other things that made me feel like pregnancy was more than just an abstract thing to them, even though none of them had children yet. The younger people in the group (20-25) were much more concerned with nursery colors, baby showers, and how they know someone who is pregnant. This is not to say that there is a right or wrong reaction to pregnancy, but that I found it curious that there seemed to be a definite distinction in reactions that occurred around 25 years old.

The road home from the retreat was a long, winding mountain road- and not in a figurative sense. I didn't redecorate the car, but felt pretty icky the whole way home and crawled into bed as soon as I could see it. I slept for probably 14-15 hours last night. Well, minus the bit of time around midnight where we hung out in the basement because Asheville's public warning system rang out for about 30 minutes. Wesley ended up calling the police station to see what was going on after the Doppler showed that all the storms had passed. They didn't know why the sirens were going off or who set them off. It was a good thing in a way to have a 'drill' because we learned what the sirens sound like when you are asleep (cars on a highway) and that Wesley would get blown away in a tornado because he would be too busy hunting down his camera equipment and shoes to get down to the basement in time.

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

Charleston, Dahlin'

Wesley and I had a marvelous time in Charleston over the weekend. We went without an agenda and had a true "weekend getaway." After a stressful first trimester, we needed the time to just relax and BE together.

On Saturday we walked the lower peninsula, looking at all of the amazing mansions, beautiful old churches, and historic buildings. We also walked along the riverside park and The Battery, which offered views of the bay and Fort Sumter. You can click here to see the photos Wesley took on our trip.

All that walking made me and the baby hungry. We ate every couple of hours. First was brunch at Toast, which was decent and at least filling. Then we had lunch at Amen Street Fish and Raw Bar. I had a Fried Green Tomato BLT, since these days my gut reaction (get it?) is that things from the sea should stay there. Mid-afternoon snack was had at Kaminsky's. It was a great little mahogany bar/coffee house where we shared a baked-apple cheesecake. I had a steamer with Irish cream and caramel. Yum! I found my coffee substitute. Who knew fluffy milk could taste so good? Wesley had a latte that he seemed to enjoy. We had a nice, quiet dinner at Blossom on East Bay Street Saturday night. Our waiter was fantastic. Although, the waiters in Charleston all seem a little pushy and every dish is their favorite dish. It was as if they thought we would walk out if they didn't tell us how Amazing each item on the menu was. Maybe it's like that other places, but I'm used to my waiters being indifferent to what I order.

I enjoyed that Charleston was a pretty place with lots of landscaping and green spaces in the metropolitan area. Asheville's beauty mostly lies outside the city limits and being in Charleston made me wish our downtown was a little more groomed.

One thing I really enjoyed on Saturday was seeing all of the window boxes. I've been wanting to add them to our house and now I have lots of ideas on what to plant and how to make the boxes. They had some really amazing presentations. It was a pleasant surprise to see so much color. Everything is still very wintry here.

Sunday morning we got up early and did a carriage ride tour through the peninsula. Our guide was a history major from the area and did a great job telling us about the beginnings of the city, the battles that took place, and tidbits on some of the homes. I was fascinated to learn that Charleston was once a walled city with a moat. I found it humorous that the 'French Quarter' had nothing to do with being a French neighborhood but was instead the original 'red light district' with bars and brothels because it was a block from the ports.

I found myself comparing Charleston to New Orleans often. They are similar in many ways; both coastal towns with historical significance, a focus on food and socializing, and of course that 'Soouthern feel.' They were different in many ways too, though. Charleston has relegated it's pirates, slaves, and the like, along with their cultural influences to be anecdotes for the tourists and not much more. New Orleans really embraces it's diversity and history in a way that makes the city come alive, I think. Nothing compares to hearing jazz and zydeco on the streets while perusing voodoo dolls and antiques. There was no music on the streets in Charleston. Just the occasional church bells (lots of brides on Saturday).

After the carriage ride we had brunch at High Cotton, a very hip place to be, with lots of rich foods and glasses filled to the brim with bloody mary's and mimosas. Oh, I can't wait to have a mimosa again! The food was rich and tasty. Wesley's huevos rancheros looked amazing. Lucky for him, baby didn't seem to want anything except carbs that morning. I had pancakes.

After brunch we toured The Old Exchange Building. It has a dungeon (or what we highlanders refer to as a basement) that held pirates and patriots at different points in the city's history. It is supposedly haunted, but then again so is every other building in Charleston. Charleston seems to be particularly proud of this building's architecture but I thought there were many houses with much more visual interest. The building was historically significant, though. South Carolina ratified the Constitution there, for one thing.

Our last stop in Charleston was the U.S.S. Yorktown, an carrier ship for the US Air Force. There was also a submarine that we toured. I have to say, it was Not my favorite part of the trip. I don't see how those men do it. The ship was huge and had lots and lots of narrow, ladder-like staircases. It's a good thing I am not any bigger than I am yet. It was neat to get a glimpse of 'life at sea' and I found the medical bay especially interesting, of course. I also really liked going up in the control tower. That seemed to be where all the business happened. The radar room and map room were interesting and I got a kick out of sitting in the captain's chair. It was the only cushioned seat on the whole boat, with the exception of the dentist's chair. Wesley has a funny picture of me sitting on the floor in the map room because I got dizzy after climbing all those stairs all afternoon. Don't worry, I stayed hydrated. Some kind older gentleman came by and was very concerned about me. I thought about telling him "Oh, I'm just pregnant," but was afraid that would make him worry more. I just let it be and eventually got up and went on my merry way.

After a very bumpy four hour ride home- SC roads are terrible- we stopped for a quick dinner at at pizza place here in town. We were there about two minutes when I got slammed with a wave of nausea. Wesley got his pizza to go and we made it back to the car, but not INTO the car. I stood right there, next to the car, in the parking lot of a ritzy 'town center' kind of place and puked my guts up. I mean, epic. I feel terrible for the poor soul who parked in that spot next. Eryn 1, Parking Lot 0.

This morning we had an OB visit. It was just a check up with the Nurse Practitioner. I am not even remotely dehydrated, something I am quite proud of. We got to hear Baby DB's heart beat. It's a healthy 150 beats per minute. Since we were there before the doctors were, the FNP took us to the ultrasound room and we got to take a peek. Baby DB is wiggling around a good bit these days, but was sleepy this morning. We got to see a little dancing but then Baby turned away from us and showed his/her backside. Not a morning person, I guess. It's so awesome to see a healthy little baby and know that I am carrying that child. Even Wesley got a little grin on his face. He has been wonderful about not only coming to my OB visits, but being involved and asking questions. I think it surprises the nurses a little. I'm so proud to have him with me. He is taking very good care of us and I am grateful. He's going to be an amazing, amazing father.

Monday, March 15, 2010

Last week I was walking through the hospital on the way to the cafeteria when I noticed a sticker on the door to a bathroom that I have passed hundreds of times before. It was one of those stickers that lets you know there is a changing table inside. Seeing this made me think that I am going to need to know where all the changing tables in Asheville are.

This somehow clicked on a light bulb of epic proportions. It dawned on me at that moment that I am not only pregnant, not only going to be a consumer of baby-related products, but I am going to be a mother. A Mother! As in: responsible for another human being's safety, well-being, happiness, manners, and of course, any downfalls of personality (it's always the mother's fault, right?). I will be the person this little creature looks to when knees get scraped and hearts get broken. I will love this child unconditionally. My life is now lived for someone else. Needless to say, this hormonal pregnant lady teared up in the hospital hallway.

Tuesday, March 9, 2010

12 weeks and 1 day

I got my hair cut today. After getting a pretty awful cut right before Christmas it felt good to back to someone I trust (Amy at Beauty Parade) and get a cut I like. My hair has changed since I got pregnant. It's really soft and not really in a good way. It has gotten almost fuzzy and the curl doesn't hold the same way. It's not bad, I'm just having to adjust to having a new head of hair.

In other news, Wesley is almost finished installing our dishwasher and disposal. He and Jared Yates worked from 6pm to 4am last night and this morning. They cut out the cabinet, ran electricity across the house, did the plumbing, and installed the disposal. Wesley has been finishing up the project tonight. I have to say, Wesley looks pretty hot with power tools and plumbers tape in his hands.

We made a last minute decision to go to Charleston this weekend. We found a great condo on vrbo.com and the owner gave us a deal since we were picking up a slot that someone else had canceled. Neither of us have ever been to Charleston. I think it will be quite romantic and I'm looking forward to all the tasty food too.

Speaking of food, I woke up feeling pretty good this morning, didn't take my nausea medicine. I met a friend at the dog park and Wesley brought us 12 Bones bbq (my idea). Bad idea. My gastronomic ambition left me feeling pretty yucky the rest of the day. Back to bland and safe for a while, I guess.

Saturday, March 6, 2010

Preggo Jeans

I bought my first pair of preggo jeans last night. They are heavenly. Why did I wait so long to do this? I mean, jeans without buttons that slide right over my pudgy belly? Genius. I also got a really cute maternity t-shirt. I can't wait to step out with my new style. Goodbye pencil thin dresses, hello curve-loving clothes!

Twelve weeks on Monday!

Thursday, March 4, 2010

Wheels

I have now gone more than 24 hours without any nausea medicine! This from three pills a day for two months just to keep the nausea at a low swell instead of outright Tummy-Armageddon. As I am three days from my second trimester, I think I might be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel- or is that just my reflection on the porcelain?

Ironically enough, this was possibly the most queasy week I've had. On Monday, I puked up my toes and still managed to make it to work on time. I was a mess, but made it through the day. When I got off work Wesley and I went shopping for our new dishwasher. We were out for about an hour or so and the nausea and tiredness were escalating at warp speed. We purchased an awesome dishwasher (which Wesley and Jared Yates will be so bravely installing- Thank you both!) and headed home.

Then it happened. Two scenarios I had successfully avoided so far, all in one not-so-neat package. Wesley had to witness me puking (not a pretty site At All), and I did it while leaning out of the car on the side of the road. Talk about dignity.

Yesterday I was able to spend several hours at Babies-R-Us. I've started our baby registry. A little preemptive, maybe, but it was a good way for me to get excited about the pregnancy and focus on something other than how tired I feel. The Chicco stroller I picked rates very high with Consumer Reports and is very well reviewed by owners. I'm really excited about it. I played with it for a while and it's light weight, functional, folds easily, and looks nice. I think I might have registered for every kind of receiving blanket they had- I was such a sucker for how cute they are and the thought of my little one being so cozily wrapped in blankets. All together now... Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaawe.

Oh- one question. Red or green? Answer in the poll to the left. Thanks!